The successful fairy tale

I received in my inbox yesterday, an email asking me if success was raising a child who was smart, happy, and well mannered.  That gave me pause.  At first I was sad, it seemed so empty, is that it?  That's all I'm striving for?  Is that how I measure success?  If you saw my parenting some days, you might think so.  I know I personally put a lot of emphasis on manners and not always for the right reasons.  Yes, I want my children to be a blessing to others, (but I also don't want them to make me look bad.)  Do I want them to be happy?  Of course, but not necessarily as the world defines happy.  I want them to be joyful and I want them to know that true joy comes from the Lord, not things, and not other people, and not circumstances.  Those are all wonderful fun things, but they are fleeting.  Do I want smart children, again, of course, but wisdom can't be learned from a book.  That's God taught.  Even manners go back to the Golden Rule, Do to others what you would have them do to you.  So to get back to my original question.  Do I define success by raising children who are smart, happy, and well mannered?  In a manner of speaking, I guess I do.